4 Foolish Things

-The foolishness of always being right.

Sometimes we choose to be wrong, not because we really are wrong, but because we value our relationship more than our pride.  When two people who care about each other fight, both are wrong.  They have put some kind of superficial outcome over love and compromise.  The one who apologizes and makes up first, is the one who is right.

-The foolishness of judging.

Some people are argumentative as a way of crying for help.  They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as attacks rather than requests.  Show a little love and concern.  Do something nice for them.  Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can work wonders in certain situations.  Resist the urge to judge or assume.  It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have them figured out.  Let them know they’re not alone.  People overcome the forces of negative emotions, like anger and hatred, when the counter-forces of love and support are in full effect. 

-The foolishness of lying.

Don’t lie to people who trust you, and don’t trust people who lie to you.  These negative relationships will never give you a positive life.  And whatever you do, don’t let the same exact people lie to you over and over again.  If someone fools you once, shame on them.  If someone fools you twice, shame on you.  If you catch someone lying to you, speak up.  Some people will lie to you repeatedly in a vicious effort to get you to repeat their lies over and over until they effectively become true.  Don’t partake in their nonsense.  Don’t let their lies be your reality. 

-The foolishness of letting betrayal get the best of you.

Betrayal is a double-edged sword.  Not only do you feel betrayed by someone you trusted, you feel like you betrayed yourself for trusting this person in the first place.  You blame them and then you blame yourself.  If you feel betrayed, it’s important to release any feelings of hate at once.  By doing so the bitterness has no time to take root.  Only then can you begin the process of evaluating the real situation.