I've heard it said that, “Holding a grudge against someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The only person you hurt is yourself. When you react to negativity, you are disturbing your inner space and mentally creating pain within your life.
When people initiate negativity, it is a reflection of their inner self expressed externally and you just happen to be in front of that expression. It’s not personal, so why do you take it personally? In short: Because your ego likes problems and conflict. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them.
When you respond impulsively, it is a natural and honest response. However, is it the smart thing to do? What can be resolved by doing so? The answer: Nothing but feeding your ego’s need for conflict.
Have you noticed that when you fight back, it feels really satisfying in our heads? But it doesn’t feel very good in your soul? Your stomach becomes tight, and you start having violent thoughts?
When you do respond irrationally, it turns the conversation from a one-sided negative expression into a battle of two egos. It becomes an unnecessary and unproductive battle about who is right and who is wrong?
Rarely can any good come out of reacting against someone who is in a negative state. It will only trigger anger and an additional reactive response from that person. If you do respond impulsively, you’ll have invested energy in the defending of yourself and you’ll feel more psychologically compelled to defend yourself going forward.
However please remember this-the angrier your thoughts become, the angrier you become. It’s a negative downward spiral.
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