Disagreements

Have you ever gotten into an disagreement with somebody who will not rest until you believe in what they are saying? You obviously have your own beliefs if you are disagreeing with them, so you are not going to just randomly change your viewpoint because of something they said (unless they are the most convincing person in the world). So the disagreement goes around and around until you feel like pulling out your hair.

Whether it’s a good thing or not, try to avoid conflict as much as possible. First of all, try and see the good in both sides of the disagreement. Secondly, understand that everyone sees the world in a different way. Although I may believe something is purple, you might think it’s blue. That is your personal opinion, and I accept that. The same goes with more important issues. Some people just don’t get where you are coming from, and they are definitely not going to shut up long enough to listen to what you have to say.

There are some people who don’t get it. They like to force their opinion on others because they believe they are right. The point it’s not always about right and wrong. Have you ever been so passionate about something that you will say or do anything you can to try and get the other party to understand? Think about it. They feel the same way about their side of the debate, that’s why you are debating in the first place! Whether you like it or not, you can’t convince them you are right.

Now I am not opposed to a little friendly debate or discussion, in fact, I think it is healthy and a great source of learning and exercising that brain of yours. However, if you are going to partake, understand that some people just see things differently. Their purple may be your blue.

The best way to win a debate is to be able to see inside the opposing mind, and actually understand why they think what they do, so give it a try. There is a huge difference between being persuasive and being pushy, ignorant, forceful, etc. If you want to be the latter, that’s your choice, but try opening up to the world once in a while. You can be amazed by what you learn.