Turning Things Around In 2019 (Part 3)

Turning Things Around In 2019 (Part 3)

-Distance yourself from hurtful relationships. 

One of the absolute hardest parts of loving somebody is that you have to give things up because of them, and sometimes you even have to give them up.  It’s difficult to distance yourself from someone you care about without getting hurt in the process.  Even if this relationship has hurt you a hundred times, you start thinking of all these “what ifs" and “maybes” about the future.  However, there’s nothing concrete and reliable about these fantasies.  The reality of this person’s consistent actions has disproven them.  When someone shows you their true colors time and time again, and consistently hurts you, it’s best to love them and distance yourself from that relationship that leads you down a pathway of pain..  

-Forgive the people who don’t necessarily deserve it. 

Distance yourself and forgive them.  Forgetting about the people who hurt you is your gift to them, but forgiving the people who hurt you is your gift to yourself.  Let this sink in.  You need to forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness at the moment, but because you deserve peace of mind going forward.  Relationships can temporarily split, only to heal and grow back together over time.  Forgiveness alone makes this possible, if it’s meant to be, even if they don't really deserve it.

-Find joy in less. 

People who spend all their time trying to make money, spend all their money trying to make time.  Don’t do this to yourself.  Remind yourself that the richest human isn’t the one who has the most, but the one who needs less.  Wealth is a mindset.  Want less and appreciate more today.  Challenge yourself to be less impressed by the things you own, and be more impressed by the life you live.  You are incredibly fortunate to be experiencing this moment right here, right now, and the more you appreciate it, the better it will be.  

-Say “no” when you need to. 

Saying “yes” to everything and everybody puts you on the fast track to a regretful existence.  Feeling like you’re constantly busy and overwhelmed is typically the result of saying “yes” to too often.  We all have obligations, but a healthy, effective pace can only be found by properly managing your yeses.  So stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no.”  You can’t always be agreeable; that’s how people and situations take advantage of you.  Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.